During my last Sunday Critique group, we started talking about people who, when you follow them, they don’t follow you back. There may be a lot of reasons for why someone doesn’t get a follow back, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t suck. I don’t think it’s necessarily that the person thinks they’re better than someone following them–at least I hope that’s not the case. So, I wanted to put out there the reasons I will follow, not follow, or unfollow when things go horribly wrong.
When I follow someone, I don’t expect a follow-back. I LOVE when people follow me back, and I admit, sometimes I feel a little disheartened when someone I think is super awesome doesn’t click that little blue button, because, hey who doesn’t want their favorite author, actor, show, etc to follow them, right?
Here’s the problem, at least for me. I LOVE new followers, and I’m always checking out what the blurbs say. If it says Soldier, I try to thank them for their services to my country. If it’s something else that’s interesting, I may or may not say something. If you say something to me, Kudos! I try to reply.
The thing is, if you haven’t interacted with me on some level, I’m probably not going to follow back. It’s not meant to be a slight. I used to follow everyone back without a second thought. I used to do all the Thank you’s and everything. Unfortunately, there are people out there who use a follow-back as an excuse to SPAM THE HELL OUT OF YOU! If I just followed you, I do not want messages in my inbox to go buy your book. I do not want messages in my inbox about clicking on x,y,or z. It’s Spammy and Annoying.
I LOVE following people and seeing their awesome tweets, books, thoughts, stuff, ideas, and whatever, but I’ve had too many people be self-promoting jerks, which makes me leery of doing an instant follow back.
So, let’s break this down.
I Will Follow Someone Back When:
- We have some awesome interaction going. Don’t be afraid to talk to me. I don’t bite and I LOVE meeting new people.
- I know them outside of Twitter. If I’ve met you on Facebook, a forum, through someone else, etc, more than likely you’ll get an instant follow back.
- When I engage in conversation after seeing their awesome Twitter blurb and we gets to talking. Again, this is an interaction thing, but you don’t always have to make the first move.
I Don’t Follow Back When:
- When there is no interaction in any which way shape or form. This might seem mean, but it’s not meant to be. It’s just meant to protect myself from Spammy McSpammertons who flood my inbox.
- When I see it’s a corporation/business/or something along those lines that I don’t know. Again, I’m not sure what’s going to wind up in my inbox.
- When someone generally creeps me out. There are stalkers on Twitter. There are trolls who like to do shady things or maybe just like to tell me how beautiful I am, which is sweet in theory, but creepy on Twitter if we don’t have that sort of friendship going on. If I don’t know you, I don’t want a ‘Damn girl, you’re so sexy!” tweet. Okay, well really I don’t want that kind of tweet at all, whether I know you or not. But if I don’t know you, it’s especially going to weird me out.
I Will Unfriend You When:
I don’t generally unfriend people, even if I haven’t interacted with them in a while. After all, I’m not the only person they know on Twitter, and things happen. There are only a few things that will make me unfriend you.
- Cyberbullying – whether to me or someone else
- Racism/Prejudice. You bash people because of the color of their skin, sexual orientation, what they have or don’t have between their legs, etc and so on. Most likely we’re not going to get a long anyways, and it’s better that we just cut ties now. I have a firm belief people should be who they want to be, color has no bearing on who a person is, and everyone is deserving of love.
- Porn – not to be confused with tweeting about an erotic novel. I mean porn. I do not want an ad telling me to click a link and speak with virtual sex person, and I don’t want to see anyone naked on their webcam. I’m not paying for sexual services and really, I don’t think Twitter is the place to proposition people. It’s back to that creepy thing.
So, there you have it. My rules for Twitter and following people. If you want to chat, I’m game. Also, if we are interacting and I don’t follow you back, more than likely, I just missed it. Sometimes I think I’m following people and I’m not, and when I realize I’m not, it’s usually because we’re chatting back and forth.
Are you sensing a pattern?