There is a huge issue in the U.S. today, and its the self image of women. Between digital media, airbrushing, Photoshop, and yes even flawless, gorgeous protagonists that can do no wrong in books. Women come in different shapes, sizes, heights, skin colors, hair colors, and more. However, without the help of a computer program practically flawless in every way is not one of them. Women are beautiful and should feel so. Culture has an idealized and unrealistic view of what women should be, and from a young age, this is instilled in our minds. There is a fight going on for robust women trying to make society accept them for who they are and what they look like. All women are beautiful – society just needs to open their eyes. The decision to get in better shape is generally a personal one. At the end of the day, there is too big, and there is too small, and both can effect someones health – no matter which end of the spectrum, when a woman hits that point, something should be done for a healthier lifestyle.
Recently I’ve signed up with a personal trainer and will be getting a meal plan to help me lose weight and put healthier food into my body. I’m overweight, am I happy with myself? Not overly. Mainly because I’m thirty years old and my blood pressure is just this side of normal at 130/80. I could very easily slip into a hypertensive state in the next few years, and forgive me, I don’t want to die of a heart attack at the age of forty. I’ve quit smoking, and as of tomorrow, I start my personal training sessions.
I’ve never been overly skinny. Even at 5’4 135 lbs left me with – as my husband likes to describe it – “a teeny tiny little waste, and then her hips and ass go bladow!” So, I’ve always had a thickness to me, and that’s fine. I don’t want to be so tiny I lose my curves. I want to lose the weight to feel better about myself and to drop my blood pressure so I have a healthier lifestyle and I can do things – like live past 40. Both grandmothers died in their early 60’s albeit for entirely different reasons. I, however, prefer to go the way of my grandfather who is still vivacious and as stubborn as The Huntress hell bent on revenge for the death of her fiance by her father. The man does what he wants – and sometimes he’s got more attitude than we know what to do with it.
So what’s the point? The point is that women shouldn’t be pressured into being a size zero, with the outline of muscles defining their body, and be forced to be at the gym everyday. The decision to lose weight is a personal decision – and outside health reasons – if you’re happy with yourself, then flaunt it. Don’t let media, digital programming, Photoshop, or even the unrealistic perfect, gorgeous protagonist of a book make you feel less. Health should be a determining factor in my opinion. If you’re like me, and your weight is causing issues with blood pressure and cholesterol – it might be time to hit the treadmill. If you’re robust, happy, and healthy with who you are, than fuck the rest of the world and what they’ve got to say. Do you. Women should be made to feel good about their appearance, and if they’re not happy, they should have the tools to make realistic goals if they want to lose weight.
My New Years resolution is to live a healthier lifestyle so I’m not on blood pressure pills by the time I’m thirty-five.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent” – Eleanor Roosevelt.
PS. On an unrelated note, my other New Years Resolution is to be published in 2014.